Stones of remembrance in the Bible are plain stones set up at the place where God did something, so that it would not be forgotten. Three of them, read in order, tell one story. Joshua set twelve at Gilgal the day God brought Israel into the land. He set one at Shechem on the day the people gave God their word. A generation later, after that word was broken, Samuel set one at Ebenezer on the day God brought them back. Each stone was set so that the next generation would ask what it meant, and the men who were there would answer, so that what God did that day was remembered and passed down.
Gilgal: the stone that says what God did
In Joshua 4, Israel has just crossed the Jordan on dry ground. The LORD tells Joshua to take twelve men, one from each tribe, each to lift a stone from the riverbed where the priests stood. Then Joshua tells the people what the stones are for:
"When your children ask their fathers in times to come, 'What do these stones mean?' then you shall let your children know, 'Israel passed over this Jordan on dry ground.' For the LORD your God dried up the waters of the Jordan for you until you passed over, as the LORD your God did to the Red Sea, which he dried up for us until we passed over, so that all the peoples of the earth may know that the hand of the LORD is mighty, that you may fear the LORD your God forever." (Joshua 4:21–24, ESV)
The stones are set so the question will come. A son sees a pile of river stones on dry land and asks. A father answers, and in answering he remembers. The Hebrew word Joshua uses for the stones in verse 7, zikkaron, means a thing that makes you remember. A stone that only sits there has done nothing. A stone that gets a man talking about what God did has done its job.
Shechem: the stone that heard their promise
At the end of his life Joshua gathered the tribes at Shechem and told the whole story back to them. Three times the people said it: we will serve the LORD. "You are witnesses against yourselves that you have chosen the LORD, to serve him," Joshua said (Joshua 24:22, ESV). He took a large stone and set it under the terebinth: "it has heard all the words of the LORD that he spoke to us. Therefore it shall be a witness against you, lest you deal falsely with your God" (Joshua 24:27, ESV).
This stone holds not what God did but what the people said back to him: he brought us in, and we gave him our word.
Ebenezer: the stone of help
They did not keep it. "There arose another generation after them who did not know the LORD or the work that he had done for Israel" (Judges 2:10, ESV). The children stopped asking and the fathers stopped answering, which is exactly what the stones were set to prevent. In time the ark itself was lost to the Philistines at a place called Ebenezer (1 Samuel 4).
Then Samuel calls the people to Mizpah: "If you are returning to the LORD with all your heart, then put away the foreign gods" (1 Samuel 7:3, ESV). They do. The Philistines attack, the LORD thunders, and Israel wins on the same ground where they once lost.
"Then Samuel took a stone and set it up between Mizpah and Shen and called its name Ebenezer; for he said, 'Till now the LORD has helped us.'" (1 Samuel 7:12, ESV)
Samuel names the stone. Help. Not "we fought well." Its name says who turned the field.
Read together, the story is plain. Gilgal says God brought us in. Shechem says we gave him our word. Ebenezer says we broke it, and he brought us back anyway. That is the story of nearly every man who will read this. His word is the part that failed. God's word is the part that held.
What the stones are not
A stone of remembrance is a marker on the path, not a charm. It will not change your life. Your relationship with God will. The point was the question, the answer, and God in the answer.
What a man can do this week
Pick one thing God has done for you. Not your whole story, one thing. A crossing you could not have made alone, or help you did not earn. Then set a stone for it, which means saying three things plainly: who the stone is for, what the LORD has done, and what it means to you. Write them down. Say them to someone. None of the three is a promise you make: your stone is a Gilgal or an Ebenezer, not a Shechem.
Where story work and a group of men fit
Joshua's stones assumed a family around them. Somebody has to ask, and somebody has to answer. A man in a group of men gets asked. Story work does the same thing on purpose: you write what happened, you say it out loud to men who are listening, and in the telling you find out what it meant. Start that with a small group if you have one. Three men and a question is enough.
Set a stone
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